My name is Tara I’m a 38 year old mother of two, Jeffrey now 19 and Lillian 8. Prior to moving to Singapore I had never lived outside of a 10 mile radius from my parents, family or friends. New Jersey is home, its what I know its my comport zone.
So picking up and moving to the other side of the planet….. Well lets just say I had no idea what I was in for! I believe if you have your family everything else will be fine. And this is true, but let me be the first to let you know something. “Something” happened to me upon arrival to Singapore…. My first goal after recovering from jet lag was to make sure the transition for my children and husband was seamless. That went surprisingly fine, they are up and running with work and school like normal.
After about 3-4 weeks “it” hit me. “It” being the overwhelming thoughts and emotions or that “something” I was talking about, of excitement, adventure, LOSS, sadness, loneliness…..Oh and wait did I mention loss? That was the biggie. I realized I’m living a life that I have no clue about! I was a full time Realtor working day and night 24/7. I split the house work with my husband and kids and ordered out more times for dinner then I’m willing to admit. Now I’m thrust into this expat life style of homemaker and stay-a-home-mom. WHO AM I?? I know how to work, make money and contribute as an equal on all levels as a wife, mother and woman. Now I’m titled a DEPENDENT!?!? It says so right here on my ID… As if the ID didn’t give me enough reason to question my identity, I was starting to see other expat woman in the same roll as myself “stay-at-home-mom” but with full time nannies and helpers!?!? Yes, I understand the levels of wealth vary here but COME ON! Even back in the states we raise our own kids while working full-time and maybe have a house cleaner come in bi-weekly . So, how in the world can I justify having either of these in my life now? I can’t….
So I took my feelings of identity loss and turned them into how I identify myself. I’m a Blue Collar Lady living in a White Collar World. Not only am I ok with that, I have found other woman like myself and it is making life in Singapore WONDERFUL!! I hope to connect with and help ladies like myself through this blog, so we all get the most out of this amazing life experience!